In the past we’ve talked about ‘Sudden Lull Syndrome‘ and taking a break in the middle of a project. Which is great, and we should definitely do more of that (me included, it’s a constant battle). This post isn’t about relaxing after something big. Today, ladies, gentlemen, and frogs we’re going to talk about weekends.
Behaviour One – What are weekends?
When Saturday rolls round do you look at the calendar, shrug, and go back to work? Or (worse) do you say ‘Yay, Saturday! Now I can catch up on…’? Does this happen on Sunday as well?
If so, for the duration of this post, we’re going to classify you as an ‘Intentional Workaholic’. Do not be alarmed (whatever a ‘larmed’ is) I know lots of people in the same boat, and for the purposes of this post that’s my current label too. Score one for the team.
Behaviour Two – Sweet! It’s the weekend! I can do something fun, just after I check on…
Do you play Facebook games? Are you forever losing hours and hours to simple things like msn and gmail? Do you check stats and messages constantly throughout the day?
Then proudly attach ‘Attention Wanderer’ to your list of labels. This is my typical Sunday behaviour, because I make it a rule not to work on anything in particular. Time likes disappearing in this mode, and usually I wind up feeling bored after the first hour – too bored to do anything more fun! Horrible isn’t it?
Behaviour Three – Screw you guys, I’m not doing it any more!
Do you get to the weekend and want to go into hiding? Does the hermit lifestyle sound appealing so long as you have all the necessary comforts and distractions? Have your weekend gaming sessions exceeded 3 hours at a time?
Congratulations, you have the ‘I’ve had it’ label. After a particularly stressful week this is what I turn to; completely ignoring everyone around me, I retreat into something fun and solitary for the better part of the day. Then feel guilty that nothing got done. Aside from the guilt, this is probably the least damaging behaviour.
You can now throw away your labels
Or burn them and dance round the fire should you wish. If you’ve read this far you’ve already found something to relate to in one of the situations above, and that means this post is for you. Hi there.
For the especially observant among you, you may have noticed that I ascribe to all three behaviours. Who am I to tell you how to do things differently?
I’ve made the wrong choice often enough to know its the wrong choice
Somewhere, you know it too. Inside there’s something you’d rather be doing when you’re working on a Saturday, chatting for hours on msn, or hiding with a game. I don’t know what it is, it’s different for everyone. What I do know is that so long as we keep on as we are we’re missing out. Big time.
Possible Actions for Possible Results
- Get up at the same time as you would during the week
- Work for at most two hours on a Saturday morning to prepare for Monday
- After the work go and play for a few hours (whatever this means for you)
- Check your websites etc in the evening
- Then go and unwind with a film or book
- Instead of work on Sunday, do something that makes you truly happy for a couple of hours
- Rinse and repeat
Between us, let’s run a test.
From a whole boatload of reading and paying attention to my own emotions and energy levels I came up with the short list above. I think it may save our sanity and our weekends. I’ll follow it myself, and you can choose to do the same if you like. Feel free to suggest more points, or strategies in the comments; we could even make a case study together at some point.
Until then, let’s just keep this between us. One weekend waster to another.